In this installment, Zen Buddhist monk Brother Phap Huu and leadership coach Jo Confino explore the lifelong journey of self-forgiveness and how to forgive ourselves. How do we find the capacity to let go of past hurts and come into the fullness of our lives?
The conversation also touches upon themes like self-love, self-compassion, community, spiritual growth, impermanence, the coexistence of suffering and happiness, and the importance of ongoing practice.
Brother Phap Huu discusses the Buddhist perspective of the Dharma threading through time, embracing past, present, and future; how loving oneself begins with recognizing and accepting one’s stories and scars; the importance of treating oneself with kindness and compassion; acknowledging unskillful actions; practicing with the inner child; and much more.
In addition, personal stories shared by the presenters illustrate how forgiveness and self-love evolve over time, and that forgiving oneself is vital for genuine compassion and service.
The episode concludes with aspirations for the new year and an invitation to join a pilgrimage to India to explore Buddha’s life.
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Quotes
“What we have learned in the art of mindful living and the art of love and understanding is that we are ever-changing. We're constantly changing. The Buddha has said that we cannot bathe in the same river twice. When we bathe in that river, the river is not the same and we are not the same.”
“The Buddha says that suffering is made of non-suffering elements - and that means you have happiness inside."
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🔔 The Way Out Is In: The Zen Art of Living is a podcast series mirroring Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh’s deep teachings of Buddhist philosophy: a simple yet profound methodology for dealing with our suffering, and for creating more happiness and joy in our lives.
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🎙️ The podcast is co-produced by the Plum Village App and Global Optimism with support from the Thich Nhat Hanh Foundation.
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Resources
Pilgrimage: 'In the Footsteps of the Buddha'
Being with Busyness: Zen Ways to Transform Overwhelm and Burnout
Calm in the Storm: Zen Ways to Cultivate Stability in an Anxious World
Interbeing
‘Looking Deeply: Healing the Inner Child’
The Way Out Is In: ‘Healing Our Inner Child: Pathways to Embrace Our Suffering (Episode #10)’
Dharma Talks: ‘Taking Refuge in the Three Jewels’
The Way Out Is In: ‘The Three Jewels (Episode #89)’
John Bradshaw
Sutras: ‘Discourse on Knowing the Better Way to Live Alone’
The Order of Interbeing